Dear pastor Kasheke,

In writing this letter I want to thank my God and Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ who saved me from the world of sin and has granted me this blessed time to share my testimony with other couples regarding how God filled my husband and I with His Agape Marital Anointing in the course of reading your books and through the marriage counseling we received.

Due to my husband's abrupt plan to travel to another country, we were married by the Justice of the Peace. However, as a Christian couple, we were compelled by God to have our marriage dedicated, celebrated and blessed by a pastor of a spirit filled church.

God being so good, opened a door for us. We were obliged to come to Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada as immigrants after spending six years in a refugee camp. Miraculously, after we arrived, we found the church we were praying for. As we grew with the fellowship, the desire for our marriage to be dedicated in the church grew stronger as we kept praying for this need. We thank God for you pastor, Rev. Abella Kasheke and the elders of the church who supported our need. Our marriage dedication was celebrated on July 2, 2000.

One of the most important preparations we undertook was a premarital counseling which Pastor Abella conducted for us. These crucial teachings dealt with the know how's, of living together as a husband and wife in our marital relationship, all of which are covered in Pastor Abella's books on marriage. For example, we learned the importance of a husband and wife being united as one, how to care and minister to each other in love, how to commune and grow with love in our relationship, how to communicate courteously and how to nourish each other spiritually, physically and emotionally as God intends it to be in every Christian marriage. We asked the Lord to fill us with His Agape Marital Anointing on our day of dedication.

Little did we know the magnitude of what God had blessed us with, when that day finally arrived and the pastor and elders laid their hands on us to receive the Agape Marital Anointing. When we reached home and were finally alone, my husband and I prayed and put into practice what we had learned as far as lovemaking was concerned. To our surprise, our lovemaking included extraordinary moments of love and fellowship with each other. We had never experienced anything like it in our life of marriage before. There was a greater freedom in our lovemaking, far more than what we used to have. It is difficult to describe. For myself, love toward my husband has over-flooded my soul. I am often unable to control myself as great urges to unite with my husband erupt within me everyday. I don't know what this anointing has done, but I do know that I have never felt such a great and powerful wind of emotional attachment and desire blow over me for my husband. To tell you the truth, I have never been thirsty for his love as I am now.

These days I have an overwhelming desire to make love to him everyday. I want to hear him tell me that he loves me over and over again. This is amazing because I had never felt such strong sexual desires for him from the time we got married until we were prayed for, to receive the Agape Marital Anointing. Before that, my husband suffered terribly because I deprived him of sex. I refused him all the time and this caused a lot a problems in our marriage. Now, instead of him running to me, I am the one running to him everyday for love. Having discovered and experienced God's blessing which He gives to couples to cheer one another, I can do nothing than to praise the Lord for the joy we now have. Often times during our miserable life of marriage because of how I treated my husband, he threatened to divorce me. Now he is so happy, full of joy and satisfaction for what God has done. Our home has become a peaceful place. It is also astonishing to see how the same love has transferred from us to our children. What has happened to our family is amazing!

In the past, I used to suffer with an overwhelming sense of shame and embarrassment during lovemaking. Shame stole all the joy other couples receive during this blessed act. This became such a threat to our marriage. I had such a fear of being seen naked by my husband. It was the most disheartening bondage throughout our life of marriage. I thought I would never be healed or delivered from this bondage of shame. However, after the counseling sessions we received and the laying on of hands, the fear that used to paralyze me emotionally before and during lovemaking was zapped out of me and is gone. I realize now that our sexual parts that God created were given to us as a blessing so we could minister to each other. Now, without shame or fear I open myself to my husband and savour the delightful endearments he gives me. I enjoy every bit of love in the various lovemaking positions we try together.

I can proudly say my husband has mastered the art of lovemaking techniques. He uses the knowledge of what he has learned to caress and excite me excessively during sexual love. This makes me very happy. Now I can boldly say that I eat till I am full. I also have learned to nourish him with love just as he does for me. Both of us are sufficiently nourishing one another, physically, spiritually and emotionally. All fears of being left unsatisfied due to quick ejaculation is gone. It is reassuring to know that he is ready to meet my needs every day. Although it is difficult to verbalize in detail the kind of sexual pleasure and sensations I enjoy, I must say that the mounting sexual pleasure I receive while being stimulated fills me with ecstasy. Sometimes the pleasure is so intense, I just groan or scream with overwhelming sexual pleasure.

For the first time in my life, I can honestly say that I love my husband very much. The pleasure he is giving me under the Agape Marital Anointing is undescribable. I truly believe it is beyond what an average couple experiences who has not been filled with this marital endowment. I say this because I was there first before entering this new marital dispensation.

To help you understand what God has done in me and in my relationship to my husband, let me show how our marriage was before and after we were filled with the agape marital anointing. Before, I was very disinterested in, even hated, lovemaking. To me, it was a waste of time because I rarely received any pleasure from it. If by chance I did experience some sort of sexual pleasure, it was limited and it didn't last long. There was a time when I never wanted my husband to tell me that he loved me because of my confused emotions. I, myself, understood that marriage was the means of having children and that's it. To be emotionally attached to someone was not part of my definition of marriage. Because of this belief, I viewed lovemaking as an act of shame. I even told my husband that sex was for people who had a sinful mind and did nothing but think about it all the time. Satan had me terribly blinded.

Our marital life, even after having our first child, was always like a war zone. I intentionally planned to provoke my husband so that we would not have peace in the house. This in turn did not give him an occasion to ask for sex because I made him upset with me. My husband by nature is very quiet but I learned how to irritate him. I was always angry and ready to defend myself from any move that my husband would try to make. Now that I can look back on my life, I realize I was allowing the spirit of Jezebel to manifest itself through me. This I learned in the counseling sessions with my pastor. I openly admitted that this spirit had taken over my heart since I was determined to hurt my husband and destroy our marriage. What made matters worse is that we did not know how terribly these things affected our intimacy to one another thus inhibiting free intimacy with Christ because of guilt.

Furthermore, when my husband and I did have sex, it was a shame for me. We did not know anything about pouring life into one another sexually. Caressing, positions and sexual techniques were not even thought about. I can remember that every time we made love, I always asked my husband to hurry and get it over with. I was never willing to let him touch or caress me. I always forced him to finish quickly. Also nakedness was a great hindrance to me since I abhorred being seen by my husband without my clothes on. Having said that, the only time I would allow my husband to see me naked was in the dark. Even though I claimed to be in Christ, sometimes I would fake sickness just to avoid him. I believed I was not sinning by doing these things. It is only now that I realize if Christ had come at that moment when I was lying to my husband, I could not have entered the kingdom of God. It did not matter how many times the Holy Spirit convicted me of this sin, I kept doing it until deliverance came during the counseling sessions when the Lord showed me quite clearly how I had tortured my husband in making him suffer unnecessarily through all the things I had done.

After our second counseling session I came home remorseful as the Lord showed me the many years of torture my husband has endured. I truly felt sick. So I went into our bedroom to pray but the Lord told me not to come to Him, but to go to my husband who was in the living room reading the Bible, and apologize to him, asking for forgiveness because the sin I had committed was against my beloved. I obeyed the voice of the Lord and shared my remorse to him. To hear my husband say that he forgave me every day that I committed this sin against him made me cry in his hands bitterly. It was the first time I saw how his quietness, endurance and patience coupled with divine unconditional love saved our marriage. How could I have been so blind!

After this moment of repentance, I assured my husband that I would never deny him again. I promised from that moment onward to become the kind of wife he always dreamed of, the kind he would desire to love and who was willing to love in return and meet his needs. This was the icebreaker in our marital relationship as we reflected on the unfruitful years we had wasted. The knowledge of how I should love my husband which I received from the counseling sessions, helped me tremendously as I was determined to never allow Satan to harm my marriage again.

These days, my husband's troubles of the past in having to beg for a moment of a lovemaking are now over. I am ready to make love with him every day. Any time he asks, I am available. What a difference? I thank God that my husband and I have learned how to love one another properly through the counseling sessions. I am no longer a disappointment for my husband and I will never allow myself again to be a let down for him because of selfishness or shame. I never thought in my entire life that I would be able to take my clothes off before my husband. These days I dress and undress when my husband is looking at me - without shame. What a freedom! What seemed impossible for me, for many years, is now possible because of the in filling of the Agape Marital Anointing.

While driving home after our celebration of renewing our vows, I determined to put in practice what I had learned and mostly to make sure that shame would not creep again into my heart. I had a bath and came into the bedroom totally naked as my husband was placing the blessed gifts we had received from friends and family. To his dismay, he could not believe what he was seeing. He embraced and kissed me, then had a quick shower. We both were ready to make love in the anointing of the Holy Spirit. For the first time in eight years of our marriage, we made love freely, in the bright light, something I never thought I will ever do. To my surprise, rivers of emotional sexual desire poured from the deepest part of my being. I had never experienced such desire, warmth, friendship, love and intimacy. For the first time in my entire life of marriage, I was very excited to fully receive end enjoy the love my husband gave to me. I realize now that the greatest call God placed into my husband's heart is to love me now and forevermore.

It is with great anticipation and desire that I now prepare myself to make love to my husband. This is what I do to prepare for our time of lovemaking. First I make our bed ardent, sweet smelling and comfortable. Then I prepare myself by taking a hot bath so I will be fresh and appealing to my husband's senses. All the time I am preparing, I am anticipating our coming together. I reflect on his caresses and the positions I may ask my husband to try. Personally, after discovering the amount of pleasure certain positions generate in a women, I like to try different positions every time we come together. By doing this, I find that sexual excitement mounts in my body. After adorning myself, I lie in bed totally naked and encourage my husband to behold my womanly beauty while he is preparing himself for me. One thing that is very important for every occasion of lovemaking is the preparation of asking the Holy Spirit to make our time of lovemaking fruitful.

Once we are in bed together, we wet each other with kisses, even if we will not have sex. This really shows to me that my husband wants to be close to me and shows me how much he loves me. It also gives me a great assurance of his love as he calls me beautiful names. Oftentimes, so much kissing and hearing these words of love causes me to ask him to make love to me fully and he willingly does. We make love for many hours to make sure that we are well nourished emotionally. As a godly wife, I must do everything possible to make our act enjoyable. I am not ready to allow Satan's lies to cause my sexual parts become displeasing to my husband by not moving or rocking my waist as he makes love to me. During sexual union, I guide him, telling him what areas he should caress and focus on according to where I find the most pleasurable sensation - the vagina, clitoris, and the vulva. Before being filled with the Agape Marital Anointing I never allowed my husband to caress my sexual parts because I considered them sinful and dirty but I have discovered that making love without caressing the sexual parts both in and outside is without success. Every husband must love his wife's sexual parts and learn how to caress her G-spot, and her vaginal walls with his fingers. Caressing me inside makes me very, very excited sexually and I produce a lot of womanly fluid. When this happened to me the first time, my husband was caressing one area inside my vagina. I enjoyed so much pleasure that my ears were ringing and my eyes lost focus. I thought I was passing out. Because the pastor had told us that this kind of extreme pleasure may happen to me, it helped me to endure and wait as I enjoyed and waited for the womanly orgasm, where warm rivers of fluid pour out of me over and over again.

My husband stimulates my sensitive sexual parts and brings me undescribable sensations that I am not able to put in words, especially when he inserts his fingers in my vagina. I pray that you will experience what I feel now during lovemaking. It is the only thing that will make you know what I am trying to share and describe. Below, please read some of the things I like my husband to do to me to arouse me sexually. My marriage having been saved from divorce by God's mercy and grace because of the power of shame that had held me captive, I feel called without shame, to freely give my testimony to help couples out there who may be suffering today as I did. The Word says, "Freely you have received, freely give." Matt 10:8. This is why I want to freely offer with openness the following caressing blessings, so that satan's power of shame can be broken from any sister in Christ out there who may read my testimony. I was blind and bound but Christ came to set free. Here is what I ask my husband to do to arouse me:

- Caressing my sides and back makes me relax and prepares me for sexual union.
- Caressing my breast and nipples with his penis.
- Putting his penis between my thighs and leaving it there while he kisses and caresses my nipples.
- Kissing my ears, chin and neck.
- Kissing my bellybutton and passing his tongue on my belly.
- Caressing my vagina as he inserts one or two of his fingers slowly in and out, especially when he uses a circular motion on the upper section of the interior part of my vagina.
- Caressing my G-spot using circular motions. Caressing around this area makes my heartbeat accelerate very quickly. I can feel it pound in my chest as I anticipate the hot rivers which will flow.
- Caressing my clitoris is also extremely exciting. It makes me explode with overwhelming, extraordinary sexual sensation.
- I also like him to caress my vaginal canal and often I ask him to glide his fingers on the left and right side.

Another technique which arouses me a lot is when my husband enters my vagina with his penis but does not go very far inside. He rotates his penis at the entrance, just a few inches from the opening and the entry of my vagina. This kind of movement produces waves of pleasurable sensation that causes the thrusting of going in and out to be very enrapturing and very enjoyable.

Here are some positions I like to use the most and recommend to you.

1. After we have sufficiently kissed and I want my husband to enter me, I first like him to lie on the bed with me on top of him. This really excites me. In this position I can communicate to him the sensations which I am enjoying the most. I tell him how to gently thrust and on which side of my body I feel the most powerful pleasure. Please note that sensations vary and do augment from moment to moment. In reaching the highest level of sexual fulfillment, I am lost in ecstasy. My brain feels like I am spinning and intense sexual pleasure makes me groan with delight. At this moment my husband knows I am savoring delightful sexual sensations and am eating and drinking his love. My entire body begins to quiver and l abandon myself into his strong hands trusting that he will continue to make love to me, so as to produce more and more sexual pleasure to the extent that his strength lasts and until he is also finished.

To better achieve a long and elevated sexual moment, I always ask my husband to enter my vagina quicky and ejaculate at the beginning of lovemaking. We rest for a few minutes while caressing one another and then it is my turn for my husband to focus on giving me the womanly orgasm. He already knows that touching my clitoris makes me move quickly into intense pleasure so he first caresses other erogenous areas in the vagina and around the vulva area. He also concentrates on caressing my breasts and the other areas I mentioned above, reserving this part for the last moments of delight. This part of my body is very delightful. It brings me so much pleasure and it causes me to want to have sex everyday, every time I think about the pleasure my husband will bring me again. For my husband and myself sexual union, has become a part of a communing together. I know that women who have never tasted or experienced such sexual fulfillment and satisfaction during lovemaking will think I'm crazy but I tell you that this is something that every woman must experience and relish herself to know what I am talking about.

Today, if you are a woman reading my testimony and you are born again and want to be blessed by your husband's love, please consider your ways. I pray that you can see the importance of being emotionally free of the bondages of shame in your heart. I say this from experience since I know that shame can become a very serious stumbling block in marital intimacy. Please, make yourself mentally ready to receive the highest pleasurable sensations your body can produce when your husband is caressing you. I have come to realize that this helps the body to respond to my husband's touch. As healing settled in our relationship, the Lord told me I should be asking my husband for sex so I am asking you to do the same thing. Ask your husband to make love to you. It is not good that your husband should ask all the time. Such a gesture shows him how much you need and desire his love and how much you want to reciprocate that love to him. God's spontaneous loving gestures must never be left to the husband alone. Please, get involved and you will discover that a good attitude toward lovemaking will bring zest and vitality into your marital life. Since the time my husband and I were filled with the Agape Marital Anointing, my heart burns with desire for my husband even to the point where we make love two or three times a day. To you this might seem impossible but I can tell you that the secret is in receiving the power of the Holy Spirit. He will fill your heart with love for your husband and you will find that expressing love is really very simple. A woman that is free and filled with the Agape Marital Anointing will be amazed to realize how God will use her husband to wake up love inside of her causing her to experience intense sexual pleasure and desire during lovemaking.

I want to thank my God who has given me the ability to taste such an amazing delight that is being poured on me by my husband. This is delight after delight.

I also want to thank the Lord for using Pastor Abella Kasheke and the time he has devoted in teaching how couples can live happily in a marriage. Dear pastor, we don't know what to give to you in return for the teaching you have given us. We listened to everything you taught us and when we put it into practice, we were amazed. The love we are giving and receiving from each other is more that we had ever imagined. What can we say? May the Lord bless you abundantly. We know that your work is not in vain. God has good plans ahead of you in helping couples know the truth. A crown is being prepared and waits for you in heaven. Be blessed with your wife who is a mother to me. Again and again be blessed !

May Christ's name be exalted. Amen!

Your sister in Christ,

Monica

Answer from Dr. A. K

Christ Rejuvenates Sexual Desire in Couples

Dear sister Monica,

May glory and honour be given to Christ our Lord.

It is a great joy for me to know that Satan's power which was sent to destroy your marriage has been broken. After reading your testimony and learning of the holy volumes of love and freedom Christ has poured on you through His Agape Marital anointing, I felt very privileged and honoured to have been instrumental in bringing joy into your marriage. Thank you Jesus!

Truly, the way in which you shared your marital intimacy in your letter, with clarity and openness, shows how God came to set you free from the overwhelming, torturing spirit of shame. Sister, it is as if you were not the one writing this letter of testimony. Do you remember how embarrassed you were to talk about sexual matters with your husband in my office? I pray the Lord will use your letter of thanks to help other couples in asking for His bestowment of the Agape Maritial Love in their marriages.

As for me, it is clear that there is no other means by which a couple can experience freedom in the way they love and serve one another, than to turn to Christ. He is the Giver of life, the Healer of broken hearts and the Restorer of trust. Not only that, He rejuvenates sexual desire in couples, replenishes love, heals, and bring hope where marital and emotional sharing was shattered. You see sister, God is assuredly our Father. After reading about your experiences, I can see how God cries with pain when He sees His children struggle, agonize and suffer ignorantly because of lack of teaching.

When the wind blows, shame dissipates!

Why do husbands and wives feel ashamed of the way God created their body parts? We have never received anything from Satan; not even a single strand of hair. Everything that makes up our bodies is God's. Every body part we graciously own, is holy. All of them were created by God to function perfectly together.God desires that we use our bodies in freedom and purity, in order that we may praise the Lord for these good gifts. As such, when we make love, we prove to God that we are happy and blessed with what He gave us. We demonstrate to Him that we are thankful to have been given healthy body parts; well designed in bringing marital joy. Thus, every delightful moment of marital satisfaction we experience during love-making is considered by God as an act of worship from His children. As couples, we must thank and appreciate Him with open hearts for creating us perfect, in His own image, and not with shame as satan would want us to feel and believe. Yes sister Monica, shame comes from satan. Our willingness to accept it and its capability in destroying and devouring our marital courtships is unacceptable to God. It is a sin, therefore, every couple in this world must call on the wind of the Holy Spirit to blow on their gardens of love, just like the Shulamite did, in order to receive overflowing love for our mates. Listen to what she says, "Awake, O north wind, And come, O south! Blow upon my garden, that its spices may flow out. Let my beloved come to his garden and eat its pleasant fruits." Song of Solomon 4:16 .

Marital righteous acts rendered by a wife (church), cause her white marriage robe to glow from earth unto heaven.

Sister Monica, as a woman, you have seen how the love you are now giving to your husband has transformed him. Let me tell you God's mystery. As I preach, teach and counsel couples, I have discovered something amazing: I found that the love radiating from a woman who wants to minister to her husband is the greatest mystery in the church today. One day, heaven will reveal it's secret to us!! Why is love the greatest mystery? Because that love heals and soothes her husbands's soul. That is a great mystery, don't you think? Only Christ is capable of explaining its divine secret to us, but for now, we as couples are only called to enjoy the cake, so to speak!

In relation to the above mystery, did you know that Christ is returning to this earth for nothing else than His virgin wife; a loving, pure and sanctified bride? Yes sister, both male and female born-again Christians must put on a God-given female nature in order to qualify to enter heaven with Christ. What a mystery!! He likened this to ten virgins. Indeed, He is coming for His bride and this is a mystery! Every man and woman must ready themselves through Christ's saving gospel, the Lamb of God's own life, whose sanctifying blood was shed for the remission of sin. "Then the kingdom of heaven shall be likened to ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom." Matthew 25:1. Sister, only five kept watch. They were the ones taken by the bridegroom. This is mystery! Again we read, "Let us be glad and rejoice and give Him glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has made herself ready. And to her it was granted to be arrayed in , for this is the righteous acts of the saints." Revelation 19:7-8. Sister, did you read that well ??? Yes, symbolically the Scripture compares the clean and bright fine linen of the bride of Christ to the righteous acts of love that a wife gives and must continue to give to her husband. Wow!!! The relationship between God and the Church should be concordant with the relationship that a husband and his wife give to each other. The love a wife must give to her husband should be the same love that God expects the Church to give to Him. If not, then the clean, white gown of righteous acts becomes spotted - an offense to God and a grief to His righteous heart. For example, refusing to love, ignoring your beloved, or lashing out with abusive, angry words will easily turn your white robe into a dirty one. The glow will diminish and soon you will begin to smell. We must be on fire; love must be holy, zealous - we must administer it with fervour. How many women refuse to act righteously with love if they know that this act of love will purify and sanctify their marriage? To put it simply sister, God has touched you so that you can now act joyfully in playing your role as a wife in your marriage. How blessed it is for the church of Christ to be born female in heart. How blessed it is to be beautified by being called and likened to a bride in order that the saints can see the Lamb of God. "Then one of the seven angels who had the seven bowls filled with the seven last plagues came to me and talked with me, saying, 'Come, I will show you the bride, the Lamb's wife." Revelation 21:9. Yes sister, it is the"virgins, the woman", the wife of Christ who will rule the world to come in God's Kingdom. Blessed is he who hears what the Spirit is saying to the church!

As you can see in Song of Solomon 4:16, the Shulamite, in her wishful heart wanted to give more and more love to her husband. She reached a place where she realized that as a human being, she did not have enough power to give love as she desired, wished and aspired to give as was required of her. Desperate and in great hunger, she called upon the "north and south wind" to quickly come and blow on her garden of love to fill and replenish it with God's power. Sister Monica, this is the great secret: the power she acquired was not designed to work for any other man but Solomon, her king and blessed consort. You can imagine what happened when she received this power. Solomon was turned from resentment and bitterness into a happy, smiling man!!

Sister, you have done well and I am proud of you. Please keep praying so that many other couples will turn to Christ to receive this beautiful and overpowering love-giving Spirit, the Holy Spirit, His Agape Marital Anointing.

May the joy of the Lord be your strength and to those who want to live in marital peace! Keep up the good work!

May the Lord bless you.

Your servant,

Rev. Dr. Abella Kasheke