Words cannot adequately convey the gratitude I carry in my heart regarding the things that God has done for myself and my wife through your personal counseling and your marriage books. Holy Spirit Union In Marital Sexual Love andHow To Receive The Agape Marital Anointing came into our lives at just the right time. We had been married about twenty-six years. I believe this was an answer to much prayer. I must admit I was "in the dark" about many things, however your books shone God's light on my ways and now I realize that God calls a husband to love his wife even unto death.

Before God transformed our marriage, I was miserable - confused, depressed and tormented by a evident change of heart in my wife. What exasperated me the most was the fact that marriage in Holland is not considered to be a sacred thing anymore. Even churchgoers consider the sanctity of marriage a thing of the past. A wife or husband can choose to end the marital relationship in whatever way they wish and no one will question the action. In Europe, temptation and affairs are rampant - the divorce rate is extravagant. With all that in mind, my wife suddenly turned against me despite our involvement in the church and the commitment we had made to one another. She really hated me. My wife had deprived me many, many times but the biggest trial I faced was the day she came to me and blankly said she didn't want to make love to me ever again so I should find a prostitute or whoever to love. She even told me she would cut my sexual part with a knife when I was asleep if I ever tried to touch or get close to her again. This broke my heart. The only thing that kept me married to my wife in this state was the thought that some day I would have to face God and He would ask me what happened to my wife, the rib of my own flesh. For more than fifteen years my wife asked for a divorce but I refused.

It was by grace that an e-mail for your marriage books dropped into our home computer. I thank God my wife did not delete it. We decided to order the books and ask for prayer. For years I had spent many a nights without sleep suffering from groin pain. The medical tests I underwent, showed nothing and medicine did help my problem. Pastor, the devil was telling me that I must have a terrible, incurable disease which no X-ray or medical device could detect. Not only that, he lied to me and said that my family doctor knew exactly what was going on but just refused to tell me so I could die. I hated my doctor from that point so I decided to move my medical files to another. It didn't make me feel any better. Because of this problem and the way my wife was treating me, I thought of killing myself to end my misery but once again I couldn't do it because I was afraid of what God might say. It was a scary thought to think about standing before God in heaven holding a gun that you just used to blow your brains out. The fear of God is the only thing that preserved me.

When we called you and you talked with us, your ministry and the prayer you prayed with us brought hope to our situation. You seemed to know exactly what was going on although I was very embarrassed to speak to you about such things especially with my wife on the other phone. God being so good, touched on every aspect of our problems and came to help us. I will never forget the sensation I felt going through my body after the Holy Spirit fell on me. Pastor, God bless you!

Did you know that on the same day after you talked to my wife about what marriage was intended for, she cried for days? She was so sorry for the things she had done against me. I started to regret the reason for initiating contact with you. On Friday, when the crying stopped, we were in bed and my wife turned to me and asked me a question she had not asked me for many years. "Do you still love me after all the suffering I have put you through for so many years?" When I assured her that I loved her more that anything on earth, she arose from the bed, went into the bathroom and came out with your two books. I didn't know what to say other than to listen to her. My wife opened the book to the section on Prayers - How To Receive The Agape Marital Anointing. She asked me to lead her in the prayer so I did. When I was finished she asked me to repeat the prayer also. I humbly bowed my head and prayed. Something very strong hit both of us. I can't figure it out; all I know is that I have so much love for my wife. I have never held my wife so dearly. If what I saw and what I felt is what you call the person of the Holy Spirit, then he is powerful. I have never experienced such a thing in my entire life. Anyway, after this experience, my wife, Gerie, told me she felt someone touch her groin area as heat went through her body also. Pastor, to make a long story short, what happened to us has set us ablaze with love for one another. As the days went by, my wife began to desire me more and more and eventually she asked me to make love to her. Not only that, I was healed of the groin pain that attacked me whenever we came together. My doctor could not understand what happened when I told him the pain was gone.

Making love and being together is now the goal of our lives. These days, I finish work as soon as I can and run home as quickly as possible. When I reach home, my wife is always at the door waiting to give me a long kiss. She works very close to our home. I really don't know how our daughters will react to this new kind of love being demonstrated by their father and mother. They are used to seeing their mom and dad throw insults back and forth to each other. Both of our daughters are married but I always have a question in the back of mind which really bothers me. After seeing Gerie become a stable, secure person because of the anointing and love she receives from me, I wonder if their emotional needs are being met by their husbands. I have learned that in order for a wife to be happy, she needs to receive real agape love from her husband. This will make her feel desired and complete as you detailed in your book.

We have suffered for a long time but Christ set us free by the truth you wrote about marriage in your books. Now we are able to enjoy freely the sexual techniques and positions you wrote about. We are also able to help other couples from our church to know how to love and give love to one another, God's way. Your books have really brought light to my eyes. I didn't know how to love or make love to my wife. I know now that her rebellion came as a result of her being left unfulfilled each time we made love. I didn't even know how to talk to her with respect because of my inability to listen properly. Praise God, now she is very happy!

Sorry to interfere with your busy time but I just wanted to thank the Lord for the testimonies we are reading on the Internet. The Holy Spirit is doing work everywhere where your books are being read. Glory to God for His marvelous works!

Please tell the brothers and sisters in Canada to pray hard for Europe. Spiritually, things are terrible here. May the Lord bless you for your humbleness.

Gerie sends you many hugs. We will be blessed to see you face to face one day when you come to Europe to promote your books.

Yours with the joy of the Lord,

Daniel 

Dear Brother Daniel and Sister Gerie,

Many greetings in His Holy name.

Your letter did not only bring me consolation but it caused jubilation in my heart. I showed it to my wife. She read it and was very glad and we rejoiced together to know that God is answering our prayers beyond what we had envisioned the message of the books you bought would do. May the name of the Lord be exalted!

We are very happy for you now that you can appreciate the fact of being husband and wife. Please drink and eat love to your fullest as Solomon and the Shulamite filled each other with this God-given blessing. I was partly saddened to note the years you suffered because of ignorance. As you continue celebrating under the Agape marital anointing, continue making love remembering that there are many couples there in Holland who are going through terrible times, and even worse than what you experienced. We thank God for your deliverance. So devote plenty of time in prayer for these people. The Bible tells us that freely we have received, freely we must give Matthew 10:8. When ministering to couples as you have mentioned, be patient with each individual couple you minister to. Treat everyone with love and dignity allowing time for people to heal. Although your healing was instant, to some couples this is not the case. They are terribly injured. You need to use caution in order to put a band-aid on their wounds without causing additional pain.

As you continue ministering and couples begin to trust you by opening up and sharing their deepest pains, you will realize that only Christ understands at length the degree of torments husbands and wives are going through. So, be careful, diligent and sensitive to each couple's need. As you serve the Lord in this ministry of counseling, you will find that each couple's need is different and must be ministered to with gentleness, respect and great patience. I know the Lord who has began this work in you will direct you as to how to deal with each situation. Always minister as unto the Lord.

Regarding what you felt and what happened to you and the touch your wife felt as if someone had touched her groin area. I believe it was the blessed healing hand of our Lord that touched her! As you have explained, I believe you can now appreciate how God created a woman. Women are created to be treated with tenderness, love and great respect. It is sad to say that many husbands don't like offering this honor, thus bringing trouble into their marriages. Personally, I believe that honoring a wife is as simple as breathing in and breathing out. Isn't this simple if we desire to live? Isn't it also true that someone can quickly and easily die if they refuse to breath in and out? Our wives deserve to be appreciated for being part of our lives and givers of joy. The Word tells us in Prov 18:22 that God favors a man only after being married to a wife the Lord has given him.

As you stated, I believe that your wife had turned away because of many disappointments she experienced throughout your marriage since you said you did not know how to meet her needs. If when you got married she did not receive the tenderness she expected from you, something may have happened to her soul and she developed hate against you, that caused her to not believe that the sexual act was an important part in the building of your marriage. Sexual frustration, although it is not the only reason that can be attributed to all marriage break ups, it should be regarded as its greatest catalyst. The pain that sexual frustration causes accumulates thus causing the wife to feel used and uncared for. May unfulfilled wives feel hated and abandoned by their husband thus causing depression and lack of self-esteem to attack them. The tender care she expected from her husband is usually tarnished because she feels her husband has left her unfulfilled over and over, thus signaling a lack of care. This is why God touched your wife to heal the pain she had experienced each time you left her unfulfilled; and her intense sobbing proves that God was pouring his healing oil on her. A touch of Christ's hand is powerful enough to bring healing to her sexual parts, heal her shattered and confused emotions, fill her and replenish her feminine desires for you again. This I believe is what happened to both of you.

When reading your letter, my wife felt that the pain you were experiencing when you had erection may have been caused by the many years you spent being deprived. Something must have happened to you as a result of being terribly starved and the body reacted by sending pain. We give glory to God that this problem, whatever it was, that was bothering you is now fixed by the great physician - Jesus Christ. Yes, brother and sister, Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever !!! He sees our desperate needs and comes to help us. Because you have read both of the books you have been blessed with great love for each other, thus kindling great sexual communion. Since your love has been filled to the brim and since you can not get enough of it from each other, my advise to you is that you hold fast and keep with diligence that which you have received with great zeal that the enemy will not come to steal what Christ has already given you. Please desire, make love and fill each other with every delight that heaven can offer to both of you in restitution of the many lonely years of suffering and sexual starvation you endured as you continue helping others. The Bible promises that God will restore to you the years that the locust, cankerworm, caterpiller, and palmerworm or Satan had destroyed by eaten your marital sustenance and ability to nourishment one another with love. Now bless each other. Now eat plentifully, and be satisfied, and praise the name of the LORD your God, that has dealt wondrously with yo. The Word says that Satan's army is defeated and you will never be ashamed Joel 2:25-26. Praise the Lord!!!

Regarding your daughters. I do not know how to advise unless you share with me what kind of marriages, they are in. Are their husbands saved? If they are, then you need to invite them to your home or to the place where you conduct the ministry to couples and let them learn how to love one another, how to esteem each other, and how to honor each other. If the girls and their husbands are saved, I suggest you ask them to buy the books. It is imperative that every couple does buy and read this books! You have seen what God can do through the message they contain. As testimonies and letters I am receiving are being posted on the website, each of these testimonies show that their teaching is transforming couple's lives. Therefore, invite them and share God's blessings with them. Love and marital sharing should no longer be considered a taboo. You need to be open and share with them. God's will is that your daughters will be happily married. The Bible says that God hates divorce. "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, for it covers one's garment with violence," Says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously." Malachi 2:16. In your letter, you yourself shared how you felt you must not divorce your wife despite her determination to want you to do so. If you know that your daughters' needs are not being met, you need to do what the Holy Spirit is calling you to do. Help to provide them with information and pray for them to receive The Agape Marital Anointing. Again I want to thank you and the Lord for this great healing and deliverance that you have reported.

Please keep in touch and tell some of the people you are ministering to, also to write. May the Lord bless you. My kisses and embraces to all of you in Holland.

Again I repeat I am excited for what the Lord has started there. As your ministry grows, I look forward to hearing from you.

Your servant,

Rev. Dr. Abella Kasheke