Dear Pastor Kasheke,

Please remove my name from your mailing list. I am not even certain how or why I was added to it. This letter has upset me more than you can imagine. I am not married. I was however married for 25 years until my hubby found himself a girlfriend in an internet cyber-sex chat room. He is now on girlfriend #6 and plans on marrying her. After almost 2 1/2 years of my being single, I am finally trying to move on with my life. Even though I do miss the heart beat of another person in my home, my plans do not include being married again anytime in the near future.

Thanks & God bless you.

Name withheld.

January 7, 2000

Dear ...

Greetings in the name of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. I ask you to forgive me to have written to you about my books. Please forgive me! I had no knowledge of what you have endured in your life and how your husband left you for other women.

Your letter brought tears in my heart that I am unable to describe. As I got on my knees yesterday crying to God for you, the Lord reminded me that He is Lord of all. He is our Healer, Saviour and Deliverer. He can do anything!

What your husband has done is painful and very betraying. I can only imagine the pain you have endured. He should not have done such an ignoble thing. What is he going to get from worldly women after abandoning a Godly woman like  you? Does he not know that it is because of your prayers that he exists? Dear sister, I can assure you that he will get nothing from the women you mentioned than death because the Word of God says, "the wages of sin is death."

There is no man who forsakes his first blessing of a Godly wife who is ever satisfied with any other women when he remarries. This is because of the curse that follows people after they forsake their first love. No woman can fill the void that lingers in a man's soul who leaves a wife that God has provided him.  Your husband has tried to fill this void with five girlfriends in his wandering but has not succeeded to replace you. Although he had abandoned you hoping that he will be happy, he is totally wrong. He will never find peace let alone joy in his expected sinful marriage.

There is a divine mystery in how God created Eve for Adam and Adam for Eve. No other woman could ever give Adam life, peace, marital oneness and fulfillment except Eve. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord." Prov 18:22. How could your husband run from you - God's favor to him and expect to have peace, joy or marital fulfillment with another woman? He has made himself God's enemy because of obeying his flesh (Rom 8:6-8). This is so because of your marital vows that he has continually broken and betrayed. God will never be pleased with such a man.

If your husband had been lied to by Satan thinking he has found a better wife in a cyber-sex chat room, girlfriend number six whom he thinks will be better than the one God blessed him with, he is absolutely confused and full of delusion.  I think he needs to repent from his sin and humbly come back home to you where he belongs. There is no doubt why God made Eve out of Adam's rib and presented her to him and not Christina, Laurie or Kathleen. The feminine nature of these women which is different to Eve's could not fit the fragmented section of Adam's rib. Each woman is individually created to enter and join into her own husband who is specially created for her. This divine truth has been explained in Book One as it is found in Proverbs 5. "Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer-- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man's wife? For a man's ways are in full view of the Lord, and he examines all his paths." Prov 5:15-21. The same concept is also found in Hosea 12:12.

As I am determined to continue to pray for you, I do not know whether you can share with me concerning the past spiritual state of you husband before he decided to run away from the Lord. Was he saved? If this is the case, you and I will be able to agree together in prayer that God through the power of the Holy Spirit may quicken his dead conscience to life. Jesus rose Lazarus after four days in the tomb. He can do the same for your husband by reminding him of the pain he has caused you, thus making him come home. Because of lack of teaching many husbands are lost. My books cover all problems that couples encounter and give knowledge and ways to avoid Satanic invasions in marriage. Also, they teach single people how to love the Lord who is our true husband. Isa 54:5 and 2 Cor 11:2-3. Sister, many husbands perish because of lack of knowledge. I have found this to be true in counselling sessions that I am conducting with couples.

If you can grant me the privilege to communicate with your husband before he finalizes his plan I would thank the Lord. My books would wake him up and show him the terrible mistake he is making. This is addressed in length in chapter five of Book 2 ( How to Receive The Agape Marital Anointing), where the Lord directed me to share curses that follow husbands who divorce their wives. The Lord revealed to me so many things from Malachi 2:14-16. Yet you say, "For what reason?" Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. "For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one's garment with violence," says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously." Malachi 2:14-16.

Dear sister ..., it is because of the pain I am feeling for you that I have written such a long letter. Your e-mail asked me to remove your name from my mailing list. This I have done. I promise to not write to you again unless you wish so. But I have suffered so much that I felt it will be expedient for me to respond. My wife also felt I should communicate with you so that we can agree in the prayer of faith with you. Please know that the reason I wrote was not and is not to cause pain but was to inform the church of these wonderful books. As a pastor I have been pushed by God to respond to your letter. I am praying that our Lord may pour His healing oil upon you where my letter brought pain. Please forgive me for writing back when your reason to write was so that your name may be removed from my mailing list.

I will continue to lift you in prayer that God who consoles and encourages His children will cover you with his love through His Holy Spirit. Amen!

May the joy of Christ feel you!

Yours in His Service,

Rev. Abella Kasheke, Th.D.